Reflections on relationships, anxiety, identity, trauma, and the ways we adapt to survive. Explore by topics below.

Relationships & Attachment

• The Fear of Being “Too Much” for Other People
• Why We Repeat Emotional Patterns We Swear We’re Done With
• When Love Starts Feeling Like Déjà Vu
• Why “Bad Luck” in Dating Is Usually Something More Complicated
• Why Some People Feel Lonely Even in Relationships
• Anxiety in Relationships: Why Reassurance Stops Working
• Why You Keep Choosing Emotionally Unavailable Partners
• Open Relationships, Monogamy, and Why Negotiating Love Is So Hard
• The Loneliness of Being the Reliable One
• Why Every Conflict Feels Like the Relationship Might End
• Why Going Home for the Holidays Can Make You Feel Twelve Again
• Why Do I Feel Jealous Even When I Trust My Partner?

Anxiety, Burnout & Overthinking

• Why Intelligent People Overthink Emotions
• The Emotional Cost of Being Highly Self-Aware
• Why Some People Struggle to Relax, Even When Nothing Is Wrong
• Signs You’re Burned Out — Even If You’re Still Performing Well
• Why Depression Doesn’t Always Look Like Sadness (Unfortunately, It Rarely Wears a Name Tag)
• Do I Have ADHD—Or Am I Just Completely Overwhelmed?
• The Quiet Fears Most Parents Carry (And Rarely Talk About)
• Why Do I Feel Guilty When I Relax?

Identity & LGBTQ+

• How Out Do I Need to Be? Sexuality, Identity, and Professional Life in San Francisco
• Why Is Dating So Hard for Gay Men?
• Why Is Aging So Hard for Gay Men? Attractiveness, Invisibility, and Getting Older
• Why Some Gay Men Never Stop Preparing to Be Rejected
• Coming Out Later in Life: Why It Can Feel So Complicated
• Open Relationships, Monogamy, and Why Negotiating Love Is So Hard
• The Fear of Being “Too Much” for Other People

Trauma & Neurodivergence

• Why Trauma Doesn’t Always Feel Like Trauma
• Do I Have ADHD—Or Am I Just Completely Overwhelmed?
• What Happens When You Stop Performing Competence
• Why Some People Struggle to Relax, Even When Nothing Is Wrong
• Why Intelligent People Overthink Emotions
• Adult ADHD or Trauma? Why They Can Look So Similar

Therapy & Finding the Right Fit

• How to Find the Right Therapist (And Why It Often Takes Longer Than People Expect)
• Can Therapy Help If I Already Understand My Problems?
• Do I Need Therapy If My Life Looks Fine?
• What Happens in Therapy? A San Francisco Therapist Explains
• I Want Couples Therapy in San Francisco. My Partner Doesn’t. Now What?
• Why Is It So Hard to Ask for Help?
• Why Is Therapy So Expensive? Understanding the Cost and Value of Psychotherapy
• What to Talk About in Therapy When You Don’t Know